Im gonna be honest. My 'game' is basically trolling girls.But I troll from the heart, and the penis, in a loving way. Sexual playfulness is king!
There she stood, before me and to the left, as I strolled down the main street in Barcelona. She was dressed in a beautiful white sun dress, with big brunette hair, petite and curvy, with the most beautiful latin skin tone. Wow! I thought.
Did I prepare myself to make an 'approach'? Did I run through my arsenal of pick-up lines? Did I correct all my body language in order to be as alpha as possible? No, none of that silly little-boy nonsense.
Instead, I did what I always do, and asked myself 'Whats funny about this situation?'
The key behind my ability to pretty much go and say whatever I like to people, is because I CHOOSE to see the humour in my life, and life in general. I see the hypocrisy in my fears, and in taking anything in life too seriously. It makes no sense. You're not getting out alive! We are condemned to death from the moment we are born. Then we spend our lives in fear of what others think of us. In fear of going for the things that make us happy. But really, none of this shit makes sense. You are on the way out. Life is the finest tragic-comedy ever created. With that said, lighten the fuck up and start enjoying yourself.
I like fun. It feels good. I like to play. I like girls. I like to play with girls. But I play like a grown ass man...I sexually play.
Back to my story.
Now sure, I could of walked over and confirmed something she has heard 7million times in her life: 'you are so beautiful', but being honest, Im kind of over that for the most part. It bores me. It is not fun, and she deserves to see me as I am.
I am in no way against expressing the fact a woman is beautiful to her. If thats what you feel, DO IT. But, after many years of doing this, I have organically moved into something deeper. I understand that my value is no longer there, as it was before. My value is my creativity, and I also understand how women respond, and what they NEED from me, in order to give THEMSELVES the opportunity and time to be in my presence, without having to make a silly quick decision.
I repeat, this is my way of being right now, because it is something I authentically feel. Tomorrow, I may wake up and want to tell all the ladies how amazingly stunning they are. I dont care. Its never about her, its about me. Your expression is about you.
Once again, back to the situation with the beautiful latin girl. I look for the humour in life, not to get her(or a specific reaction), but for me, to enjoy my own internal freedom, and to connect with the women who are right for me.
What was humorous in this situation? Well, I was holding a 12inch footlong sandwich from Subway, which resembled the mammoth genitalia of a White Rhino, so yeah....let me go with that.
The first thing that emerged in my being...I said it. I owned it, and it highly entertained me...
'Hey...hello...you think you could fit all of this in your mouth?' - while presenting her my Subway footlong baguette with a smirk...
She could only laugh her ass off in disbelief and ask me am I actually being serious right now...I told her I am searching for a hispanic wife, and being able to fit an entire footlong in her mouth is the first box to be checked off.
"Well im afraid I definitely cant fit the whole thing in, but I could sure help you eat it" - she said.
Did she scold me and tell me off? Did she pretend to be offended? No, because really, she knew i didnt really care. I was there in a fun, friendly and semi-serious vibe. I was fucking with her. I was playing with her. She loved it.
After we chatted for a while, the silly girl gave me her number to meet for drinks next week, because she enjoyed our chemistry so much. It was real. Not politely and socially constructed. We were like good friends...who want to get jiggy with each others swim-suit-areas.
But really she is not silly. She is acknowledging freedom, risk, spontanaeity, excitement, and playfulness in a guy who didn't ONLY go up to 'get her'...but was entirely focused on amusing himself first, and sharing that with her. Its a big risk. A risk with zero negatives, and high positives in life.
A guy like that is VERY different from the status-quo. In a land of try-hard and easily butt-hurt men...That guy is rare. That guy is easy to be around. That guy is inviting. That guy is relaxed. That guy GENUINELY likes and enjoys women, and wants them to play with him.
He wants to play...while sitting in his grounded masculine energy.
Was I acceptant of the fact she could of thought I was an absolute creep? Yes...thats what I was going for, as it would of been even funnier for me...because I know im not a creep, and that's all that matters. Some girls will react like that in the split second, but im totally relaxed, so they too ease into it. Others don't and blow the interaction out. Those are the funniest.
Do you play yourself safe? Do you risk being perceived as a guy who is not favourable? Do you follow all the rules? Do you crush your own creativity?
Pick-up teaches guys to not follow the rules....while following the rules. Its as hypocritical as fighting for peace, or screwing for virginity.
Im telling you to lose the rules and follow your expression(wherever it may be at), your humour, your uniqueness, and enjoy sharing it with others.
Bringing value to a woman is not how many times you can blandly compliment their physical beauty. Bringing value to a woman and the world is done by bringing YOU to her, unapologetically, and allowing her to choose whether YOU are something she wants to step into.
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Until next time,
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