Hey man, today I have another video for you(below). Something I am sick to death of hearing from 'dating/masculinity coaches', is how you should never be an attractive girls friend, as she will assumingly 'use' you, and take advantage. Let me quickly say that YOU facilitate how others treat you in your life, so let us assume that will never be an issue. If it is, work on that first.
What these coaches speak of...well, this is a truly idiotic relationship towards welcoming femininity into ones life. The behavior of 'either we fuckin, or nothin', is a typical little scared boy move. I know this to be true, as I lived it a few years ago when I was being all mode 1 and alpha.
It is very similar to a child, not getting what he wants (in the mans case it is sexual interest and investment in return), so the child throws a tantrum, and pushes every aspect of the situation away, to protect himself.
I love and adore women. Because of femininity, my life has been enriched with beauty, emotion, softness, nurturing, creativity, love, sex, passion, and a deeper purpose. Women have been my teachers. They have exposed my most fragile parts, dumped my insecurities as a man right on my lap, and have forced(encouraged) me to step up, and face my shit, as a man with clarity and integrity.
I am, and continue to be eternally grateful for how much joy and love the feminine brings me.
Now, for some reason, many 'dating coaches' would condem this view point of mine. They would advise other men to only welcome a woman into your life, if she is going to suck your dick. This is a very low way of being, and I don't mean morally.
You see, if you cannot be at ease being around a group of attractive women, combined with not TRYING to get something from them, then you my friend, will never be truly successful with the most powerfully beautiful and feminine women. Hell, you wont even be very successful in life.
Being at ease around women, is the number 1 thing you need to first brew within your being. Why are you currently not at ease? Well that is up to you to discover. You can discover this, quickly, by being around women, and wanting nothing more than to learn about them and share parts of yourself with them. Because in reality, that's all seduction is. Those 2 parts. That is really all you need, but you have somehow convinced yourself you need more. Such as a 14 inch penis and the emotional capacity of a cyborg.
You need to find your own, internal comfort first. Then, you are a naturally attractive man. Very beautiful women will enjoy being around you. You will be giving her something she cannot find with every other guy who she intimidates.
Do you know why every other guy is intimidated by her? Because he separates himself from women, and sees them fit for only one dynamic. That dynamic being fullfilling his fragile ego, and sexual release.
There is nothing wrong with that, if that is what he truly wants, but lets be honest, no man wants to feel like women are his social or emotional validation tool. They only behave in that way, from a shut-down fear. It stems from confusion and self avoidance. They are literally avoiding and refusing to welcome in the intensely powerful feminine energy.
Im drifting off topic, but im sure at this point, you get the message. If you didn't...
START MAKING FRIENDS WITH WOMEN TO LEARN ABOUT THEM, AND TO LEARN EVEN MORE ABOUT YOURSELF.
The beautiful thing is, if you really and truly begin a relationship like this (combined with following my advice in the video), the natural conclusion will be you and one of those women doing the only thing that is natural....sexytime. Being friends with women, combined with being fully connected to your penis and edge, results in.....you guessed it....farrr more sexytime than separating yourself from women, and attempting to learn tricks and techniques to impress and seduce.
What i speak of is not to be used as a technique to 'bang bitches'. Because if you do, this is how your intention creates something called the 'friend-zone', where you were expecting something in return all along, in return for your friendship, which was never really friendship to begin with...it was a bartering system to exchange your fake ness and lack of balls, for sex. Hence the circle of the man-boy is complete.
I hope you gain a deeper understanding from this video.
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