Hey man, I am currently sitting in a wonderful vegan food place in Playa Del Carmen, in the Mayan Rivera, Mexico. I felt compelled to write about this topic...
If you feel depressed, sad, down, fearful, anxious, needy, unhappy, not worthwhile. I have an exercise for you.
Find the beauty in everyone you encounter, and share it with them.
Compliment someone. A friend, a family member, the girl/guy at the checkout counter. Actively become conscious of them, look for something that you like/enjoy about them, look them in the eye, and let them know. Do it from an understanding and compassion about how bad society has been programmed to hate themselves, NOT from a point of view of getting their pussy or attention, or affection.
Do this unconditionally.
It may seem meaningless to you, but until you do it, you wont know the power.
You see, most people are feeling and going through what you are, right now. We are all specialist method actors in life. Imagine a stranger, or someone you know and care for telling you “Hey, dude, you look awesome today, I don’t know what it is but your energy is awesome”, or “I love your shirt, good choice”. Keep it simple and clear. Imagine someone SEEING you and letting you know. How valuable did the human being just become to you? How good to you feel around them, and how pleased with yourself do you feel right now?
Sure, this is reacting to validation, but it will never be gone, we are human. It feels good being around someone who sees you, and is not caught up in themselves.
By acknowledging you see the beauty around you, things will change rapidly. Your focus will shift from that of only noticing self negativity and problems, to seeing beauty and endless possibility.
A man who is attracted is attractive.
Or just walk around glum as fuck all day and sap energy from life like a parasite.
Be clear, I am not asking you to be fake and put on a ‘positive thinking’ face. Acknowledge how you feel, then stop being so inwardly focused and selfish, and acknowledge the little things in others around you.. You will become attractive. You will bring real, honest, and appreciative vibes, which we all want to be around, because we are all so damn insecure.
I saw a girl drinking coffee earlier today. I was tired, she woke me up So I walked over to her and said “hey, I was super tired, then I saw you, and your energy woke me up, thanks…”
She LIT up, and thanked me. That it was the best thing anyone has ever told her, and that she was having a shit morning with studies, until now.
You see, when you focus not on approaching women, and instead channel your focus on seeing the beauty (big or small) in EVERYONE, your interactions with men and women, sexually attractive or not sexually attractive all mash into one. It is a wayof being, not something you turn on.
Start simple. Start with your best friend.
Be the man who sees past his own ego. Be the man who sees others, and lets them know he sees them, that they are not invisible, and that all this life-stuff has immense beauty when you step out of the ‘how can poor little old me be happy’ way of being.
If you are around someone right now, notice something, anything, and let them know what are you like about them.
Or don’t. I don’t really care. It’s your life.
But know this. Then you find the beauty in others, you become attractive, and they become EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL in your presence. That is the essence of seduction.
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