A man who is seductive is a man who is seduced by the world around him. Know this! If you feel depressed, sad, down, fearful, anxious, needy, unhappy, not worthwhile. I have an exercise for you.
Find the beauty in everyone you encounter, and share it with them.
Compliment someone. A friend, a family member, the girl/guy at the checkout counter.
Actively become conscious of them and look for something that you like/enjoy about them, look them in the eye, and let them know. Do it from an understanding and compassion about how shit other people feel about themselves, NOT from a point of view of getting their pussy or attention.
It may seem meaningless to you, but until you do it, you wont know the power.
You see, most people are feeling and going through what you are, right now. We are all specialist method actors in life. Imagine a stranger, or someone you know and care for telling you "Hey, dude, you look awesome today, I dont know what it is, but your energy is awesome", or "I love your shirt, good choice". Keep it simple and clear. Imagine someone SEEING you and letting you know. How valuable did that human being just become to you? How good to you feel around them, and how pleased with yourself do you feel right now?
Sure, this is reacting to validation, but it will never be gone, we are human. It feels good being around someone who sees you, and is not caught up in themselves. It literally lifts your energy to a higher vibrational frequency. It instills a pride in oneself.
When people pay attention to me and compliment me about some aspect of me, it is not the compliment that makes them attractive and intriguing. It is the fact they have made a conscious choice to see me. It makes me feel closer and more connected to that person, and the way they are being.
By acknowledging you see the beauty around you, things will change rapidly.
A man who is attracted IS attractive.
Or just walk around glum-as-fuck all day and sap energy from life like a parasite. It's your choice.
Be clear, I am not asking you to be fake and put on a 'positive thinking' face. Acknowledge how you feel, then stop being so inwardly focused and selfish, and acknowledge the little things in others around you.
You will become attractive. You will bring real, honest, and appreciative vibes, which we all want to be around, because we are all so fucking insecure.
I saw a girl drinking coffee earlier today. I was tired, she woke me up. So I walked over to her and said "Hey, I was super tired, then I saw you, and your energy woke me the fuck up, you are really stunning, thanks..."
She LIT up, and thanked me, saying that it was the most flattered she has ever been, and that she was having a shit morning with university, until now. Sure, we are going on a date, but that was her choice at the time, not mine.
You see, when you focus not on approaching women, but instead on channelling your focus on seeing the beauty(big or small) in EVERYONE, your interactions with men and women, sexually attractive and not sexually attractive, all mash into one. It is a way of being, not something you turn on. Start simple. Start with your best friend.
Be the man who sees past his own ego. Be the man who sees others, and lets them know he sees them, that they are not invisible, and that all this life-shit has immense beauty when you step out of the 'how can poor little old me be happy' way of being.(you are looking for happiness in the things that dont really grant you anything)
If you are around someone right now, notice something, anything, and let them know what you like about them.
Or dont, I dont really care. It's your life.
But know this: When you find the beauty in others, you become attractive, and they become EVEN MORE BEAUTIFUL in your presence. THAT is the essence of seduction!
Commit to excellence in your life from this point forward, and start your deep transformation NOW!...by checking out my wide range of different coaching and mentoring options HERE. Or maybe the ELITE GROUP may suit your situation better. See you on the inside!
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