I know dude, It's been a while...
I have been receiving daily emails from guys all over the world, basically giving out to me for not posting regularly like before haha. I needed a break to continue my own growth. It is important to take a step back regularly and detach from what in essence has 'become of you', so we know what we can rearrange and renounce from our lives.
If I was not so dedicated to my own journey, I could not help you and share my message with you in the most aligned way. My little break benefits both of us.
Before jumping into the aspect of 'Showing up' in your life, I am going to talk about the new format.
How I write these articles is going to be a little different than before. I used to spend a LOT of time writing a LOT of words and releasing jam-packed articles many pages long.
From now on, I will be making them shorter, and more condensed in my own mini-dropplets of inspiration. They will be thoughts, or random stories or experiences which you can then use to apply to your own life.
Basically, what I am saying, is this will stop being so 'article-like', and become more 'bloggy'. They will be based around seduction, dating, and everything else I do in my daily life. If you are interested in hearing how I show up in every other aspect of my life(or at least hear about me working on it) along with nutrition, health, meditation etc, then YOU show up and comment below or email me to request your own interests.
Getting better with women is not singular. It is a holistic representation of everything else in your life and how you move through and relate to it. Im dropping away from the label of 'coach', and reclaiming the label of 'brother'. After-all, we are in this journey together.
I will share with you my successes, and my mistakes. My strengths, and my weaknesses. This is exactly what i do with all my clients regardless, but I want you to know this firsthand.
If you are interested in booking for my HUGELY transformational online coaching program via Skype, it is a perfect time to do so. The quickness in the results I am seeing with my clients is mind-boggling even for me. It is the most simplified I have ever been. Just today I had a series of emails from my most recent client after his first online coaching session. He could not ever approach women. The first 2 emails were him struggling. I responded with a reminder of our first sessions way of relating to women...His next email saw him thanking me profusely while he was on a date with a girl he met, who came back and approached him.
I have dragged myself out of many realisations and epiphany moments as of late which I am now sharing with the men who put their own commitment into me and their own process.
Today, I want to talk about:
Hopefully this conversation between myself and a guy who contacted me for coaching can help you in your own life. But, just as a quick tip...if you want women in your life, what is the most obvious thing you should be doing? Yeah...interacting with women. I mean fuckin' duh...
Guy: Hey Chris, I was hoping you could help me. I know what i want in my life, and that is to be experiencing lots of different types of women so i can learn about them, and myself. The problem is, I dont know why It is not happening for me. Can you please help?
Me: Hey, that is an awesome set of intentions which are clearcut and decisive and you must own those. What do you feel is your problem with women and your own relating?
Guy: I don't know. I just dont even know how to make it happen?
Me: Wait a minute... I can't believe I am about to ask you such a basic question here, but i feel it is needed...Do you show up in front of women who inspire you to do so regularly? Daily? Weekly? Monthly?
Guy: I cant, thats the problem. I dont know what I should do.
Me: SHOW UP FIRST...ask me questions after!
Allow me to help guide you. Here is your free homework lesson:
Act in the moments you feel utterly clueless! Show up without knowing ANYTHING! Show up without having a plan. Show up just to show up. Show up FIRST! ask me questions after!
If you cannot motivate yourself to take that first step, you do not want this enough, and us working together will be a waste of time for both of us. You CAN show up, easily!
Its up to you whether or not you want to. Show up, feel afraid, feel sick, feel nervous, show up anyway, make mistakes, risk creepy, risk too nice, stutter your words, express your feelings, tell her your nervous, get smiles, get frowns, get embarrassed, feel alive, feel powerful, go on dates, fuck up dates, share kisses, share rejection, feel shame, feel humour, have sex, love women, love showing up.
Show up first...ask me questions after.
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