We have a severe issue in masculinity, where men have separated themselves from femininity. We have put them on the other side of a wall, that we convince ourselves we must smash through with techniques, lines, and lies. Men feel the need to manipulate in order to conquer a woman, assuming she does not want the same as him.
How do I live, and how have I lived with an abundant of feminine presence in my world, here is the secret...It may seem too fucking obvious.
Make friends with loads of girls, all the time. The outcome is she sees how awesome you are, and you guys enjoy tearing each others clothes off, simply because it makes sense.
Go talk to girls. Make friends with them. Open conversation from your genuine curiosity and expression. Go and talk to her to meet her, and see if she is a girl you could have fun with. Not to pick-her up.
This concept will make the die-hard self-loathing guy angry. It will call an emotional reaction in him as he is reading this right now? Is it happening to you? Does it sound too simple? If so, you have been negatively conditioned and I implore you to read on.
Earlier I saw a girl wearing this very south american dress filling her shopping bags. She had caramel skin, AWESOME big curly hair, combined with deep brown eyes, and a mesmerizing smile that made my balls tingle with a warm affection/appreciation...
My curiosity got the better of me..."excuse me...hey...are you Latino?"....we spoke for 15 minutes, exchanged contact info, and arranged to meet. She wanted me to bring her to the Ice-Bar today, but I have too much to do.
We have yet to sign the contract with regards to have I successfully closed the deal yet and 'completed the pick-up'. It doesnt work that way. Although men are fed the opinion that it does.
We are both enjoying the journey of feeling each other out. That never stops.
Decisions will be made in the moment. I assume she wants me inside her. Based entirely on the fact she is a sexy, vibrant woman, who seemed to adore my company and basically did all the flirting for me. But mainly, because she is a woman, and women like men. Im a man. duh...
Once you own your desire for women and stay playful and curious, there is NO such thing as a friendzone.
Time. Everything comes down to just time and availability on both your parts.
Being open, playful, pressure-free and curious with women is actually how you are supposed to meet women, especially very beautiful ones. Its the easiest way for everyone involved. It also just so happens to be how we are supposed to meet everyone, all the time, at least in my opinion. Agree or disagree, Im not fussed.
Your techniques and FEAR aimed at avoiding this weird self-created space called the 'friendzone' is what puts you there in the first place.
You create the space that is filled with your own non-acceptance of your penis. You are the ONLY one who can create that. Dont blame anyone else. You choose that. At this point, maybe you chose it because you thought it was the default way, which is fine, as I was there too. But now you know. You have no excuse.
Get back to enjoying the essence and spirit of women. Meet more of them. Interact with them. Learn about them combined with always living in your own truth.
Understand your truth is beautifully attractive and it is not to be hidden. Your sexuality is to be shared, not hidden or used like a weird weapon.
Guys in our society are so terrified of being 'friends' with a woman that they end up being deeply detached from female connection. Terrified of being seen by their Pick-up-peers as a beta 'white-knight'. There is a HUGE difference in what I am talking about.
The media has completely re-moulded the meaning of being 'friends' with a girl. They are not actually referring to the word friend. Instead they are alluding to the term for when a man cuts his own testicles off, throws them into the sea, and pretends like he is completely A-Sexual.
I am talking about being completely acceptant of your desire and attraction for women, and have that propel you to connect with them in a real way. In a way that states "I am a man, and she is a woman, and women like men. Let's get to know her'.
My challenge to you, is to become friends with 10 new women this coming week, or at least have a conversation with them JUST to explore and feel them out, without trying to get them or a number. To see how you guys relate to one another. THEN... sure, you can decide if you actually like her and she is a girl that you would enjoy giving your time to. Whether that is a fun sexual encounter, or something more long-term. You can choose, then invite.
I hope you can bring this way of being into your weekend, and report back.
ps: women like to have fun. Actually, scrap that...women NEED to have fun. So, stop taking all this so seriously and go enjoy chatting to cute girls. Then you guys can laugh in bed, about the other guys who come and try to 'steal the pussy' from her.
You are not the enemy...unless you make yourself the enemy.
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