If anyone complicates the process of you seeing a woman you are attracted to, followed by you walking over and speaking whats real for you at that moment...avoid it. I urge you
I have come to discover that the 'gurus' and 'coaches' who cloud everything with overtly mystical talkings of presence and seemingly magical powers, are only making up their own excuses for why the situation didn't respond the way they NEEDED it to...or to self-talk how magical all their deep masculine seduction powers are.
At the same time these men are separating themselves from other men, and disacknowledging the very fact of how powerful you are as a man RIGHT NOW in your current state. Your power is easy. Nothing you need to strive for. You are already there. You only need one thing to live in it, which I will share below.
New-agey spiritualness dissecting mens nutsack, and watering down any element of integrity.
Women will pick up on the type of man you are, how you relate to yourself and your life pretty much immediately. Fucking duh!
You knew this before you read this. Just like you subconsciously/consciously pick this up with every human being you meet. Its called being alive and interacting in a human world.
You didnt need a 'dating coach' to tell you this. You know this.
Give yourself more credit.
It is said the woman is attracted to the man with specific 'qualities', when in reality, the woman is ALREADY attracted to that particular man by default, and she is simply projecting her own opinions onto him in order to explain it to herself, in her own world, about the way you naturally effect her, just by being there, which you have no control over.
The same way you feel with the women you come into contact with. Once she is already attracted to you, your only role is to be there, and not fuck it up with your own self doubt.
That is LITERALLY IT!
Make the intelligent choice to assume that every woman you are attracted to, is also attracted to you, until she let's you know this is not the case.
Welcome this confirmation. Welcome this by showing up with your desire in every case. It is your right as a man. Women want you to show up in your realness, EVEN if she do not feel the same way for you. She still wants you to show up.
Please, forget about getting a woman with 'one glance' or the super self indulgent/i'm more powerful than other men/ presence chasing thing that litters my Facebook timeline.
That all-knowing and powerful masculine seductive glance will never affect a woman who doesnt feel anything towards you, and it WILL always affect a woman who is naturally drawn to you.
You could sneeze on a woman as your opener, who is already drawn to you, and still end up in bed with her.(yes, I have experienced this incredibly embarrassing moment)
It's is funny when I used to tell myself about all the magical deepness a woman would feel as I was seducing her. Until I started actively asking the women I was with, why they were in my bed?
Usually the answer was something along the lines of "I like you", or "you make me laugh" or "you're interesting" or "you're sexy", or "you're naughty" or, "you made it comfortable and very easy for me to come home with you"
Not once does she refer to my masculinity or depth of magical jedi-like-presence, or how I am living on my purpose.
Women, from my own personal experience, dont know why they want you logically, and they really dont want to know. They are too busy feeling it. Their body feels things around you, and they start to act on it, depending on what you allow. Thats pretty much it.
Me: "hey why did you fuck me?"
Her:- Because I was horny!
There does not have to be a deeper meaning to ANY of this.
On some occasions, yes, I will meet girls who are very much into the more deep level of expression, and they will speak esoterically about my 'effect' on them. But really? Who gives a fuck?...Your ego, thats who. He LOOOOOVES hearing that shit. It makes all your hard-work worth it right? It validates you externally and keeps your ass fragile, looking for security from other peoples opinions. I see this present in so many 'coaches' it is worrying.
The reason I am sharing this, is to allow you to release the pressure and high expectations you are placing on yourself FOR women, and start creating your OWN expectations FOR YOURSELF.
Especially when you read some of the content from dating coaches out there. Its a fuck-pot of esoteric nonsense with nothing practically defining about it, other than self-avoidance and deep fear/need covered with excuses.
Judge everything in your life on the SOLE BASIS OF: "Did I show up in this situation and speak what's real for me?"
Anything other than this is fairyland.
When you begin to show up and speak your truth FOR YOU, then you as a sexual man, will deepen by default. Your presence will deepen. Your drive, ambition and ability to love will deepen. Your voice will deepen. Your sex will deepen.
Most guys try to fix this first, without the showing-up part.
Nope. Just fuckin nope.
Commit to excellence in your life from this point forward, and start your deep transformation NOW!...by checking out my wide range of different coaching and mentoring options HERE. Or maybe the ELITE GROUP may suit your situation better. See you on the inside!
I will end this post, with a picture of the cookie monster. Look at him. Showing up fully
with all the cookies.
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