"I just met you today, it's weird. I trust you. But you also scare me. It's your charm. You are vulnerable, but you are distant. You are sensitive. When you touch me, I feel...how you say?...adored? Im a little scared. Argh! Im confused...and I want you to undress me...so please, do it. That scares me even more..."
I will not for 1 second attempt to understand and disect what she said to me. She doesnt even understand.
She feels it.
The storm of expression rolls out of her in moments of high emotion. Unable to comprehend the electricity, wanting to doubt it all, but feeling secure enough to surrender to it. Without any pressure being placed. Zero resistance, just courage within her deepest desires, to indulge in what is most natural in a single moment.
A Beautiful moment. Where we can be 2 dumb, yet instinctual and loving creatures. Both wanting to nourish ourselves and each other.
Many men, seek to be 'confident' all the time. That in its essence is not confident. It is coming from fear of losing control. Are you willing to get to a place of complete ease with your wounds? Are you prepared to give up ALL control, and be open, afraid, and courageous!?
I will be honest. I was afraid. It was overwhelming. She could see me, becauase she was seeking to. It made me nervous, but I allowed it, and shared it with her. I shared my past pain with her.
Are you willing to become totally fucking ok with all the things inside yourself which you are afraid of? With everything you dont understand? With all the judgements you place upon yourself? With all the "should I do's, or should i not do's"?
Are you accepting of yourself, regardless of your past?
Are you internally free?
Can you offer her that freedom?
Do you give up attempting to control, maneuver, and acquire?
You must go first! You set the stage for how others will relate with you.
Sure, when you come with a deep state of realness, it will scare others, but when you can combine that with a secure, trusting, and empathetic space, you can both truly fall in love in a second.
Love, is simply a recognition of anothers deepest self. Time-spent, is irrelevant. It is already there, wanting to be seen.
See her, but first...YOU MUST SEE YOURSELF!...otherwise, it will be a rude awakening, when she exposes you to yourself! You have nowhere to run.
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